Recently someone questioned me about what I hope people knew about our local age-friendly initiative. As the Community Connector I decided to take a different tack. Rather than listing all the programs that demonstrate how AFCI supports older people, I wanted to get at the heart of what motivates volunteers.
This question prompted me to write:
“It takes a village” is more than a well-known phrase meant to inspire people to nurture the youngest in our midst. For me, it translates to taking care of the physical, social, emotional, and mental well-being of all our citizens, of all ages. Those few simple words urge us to action. Your Bethel Area Age-Friendly Initiative (AFCI) is in motion, taking actions daily, to improve our communities as we focus on serving our older population.
I often think of past generations and our present older folks. While some of us may harbor negative feelings from past experiences and relationships, I think everyone can recall at least one grandparent, parent, teacher, or “auntie” of whom they have fond memories. We benefited from their care as they dedicated themselves to us and our families, nurturing us through childhood and, often, far into adulthood. I reflect about these folks, the challenges they faced and overcame, sometimes against unimaginable odds. Surely their griefs and successes paved the way to now possessing the wisdom we seek. They are the keepers of tradition, advisors and mentors who teach younger generations. They certainly deserve our respect and care.
Yes, older folks move slower; sight and hearing may have diminished. Memory lapses are common. Frustration and worry over illnesses, injuries might show itself with impatience and irritability. Grief in the loss of a life partner manifests as withdrawal and depression. Not to mention the challenges of downsizing, living on a fixed income, forced driving cessation and the ever-changing technology. Phew! However, I remind myself that there is still a young man or woman living in that aging body. Hopes, dreams, and personal goals may have changed, but just as in youth, aspirations motivate people to fully engage, as much as possible, in life.
“Old Age is Not for Sissies” was printed on a plaque I would read when I was a young woman. I had no idea just what that meant. Now that I am in my mid-70s, I better understand the truth in that pithy statement.
I would encourage readers to look at their older neighbors differently. Get to know them. Help to break down stereotypes that plague our society. Do as I have tried to do, break old habits. I started with myself, learning about ageism. Ageism is so ingrained and accepted in our daily lives that someone must consciously strive to eliminate it. I try to be aware when my speech or attitude is detrimental to myself and my peers.
Get involved with AFCI. Volunteer. Would you like to be a volunteer driver; take someone to a doctor’s appointment, grocery store, library, hair appointment? You can sign up for either an occasional or regularly scheduled task. Or for just one function or event. We can help you find a “good fit.”
Be a part of “the village.” You are needed, welcomed and encouraged to make a difference, either through AFCI or independently. Spread good cheer and care. Show others by your example. Call an older person for a quick chat, stop in with a baked good or simple meal. Or sit and just listen. Offer to clear snow from steps. Local music programs and historical societies have free presentations; offer to take someone. The local movie theater has a great variety of movies, some matinees offering subtitles and lower volume. Be creative.
It Takes a Village!
